Surprise, We’re Pregnant!

Surprise, we’re pregnant! Baby GIRL is due in December and we could not be more excited! I feel like I’ve been keeping the biggest secret from you and it’s been hurting my soul, lol. I’m bad at keeping secrets in general and this one was tough. With that being said, you may have sensed something was up when I was a bit MIA in May (I was so sick, more on that below), all my talk of dog training, and videos of food all over my Instagram Stories. When you share your life on social media, it’s so hard to keep such a big secret like this to yourself.

Crystalin Marie baby announcement

Our Story

We had been seriously talking about starting a family for at least a good 6 months. Once the new year hit, we slowly starting reading more about the process of getting pregnant and just finding out more information. I hadn’t been on birth control for years, so I knew my body was ready and I didn’t need that extra time to give my body a break. It’s funny, we talked about not wanting a December baby because of all the chaos already surrounding the holidays. We thought we had waited enough time to start trying, but sure enough we got pregnant at the end of March and we’re due in late December. I think we counted the months wrong, which is really funny because our friends did the same thing (btw, I feel like there’s so many babies due in December – in the blog world and IRL). This is TMI, so skip the to the next paragraph if you’re not into that sort of thing. We had fairly low expectations of getting pregnant because I thought I had our ovulation days wrong (I have irregular periods too, which made everything hard). We didn’t use an ovulation kit or anything. I’ve always been really in-tune with my body, so I just listened to it and went with it. Knowing I was going off my gut, we knew we could be off a bit. But apparently not, we we’re spot on. I guess having some health issues early in 20’s and getting to know my body really well, paid off.

How We Found Out – I had been extremely tired, but since we had guest in town, I didn’t think anything of it. I was also late on my period, but my period had been irregular ever since getting off birth control (5 or so years ago), so again, I didn’t think anything of it.  After feeling a little off and probably freaking myself out mentally, we decided to pick up 2 pregnancy tests to give myself some sense of peace (no harm, right?). I came home and took the first pregnancy test and it was positive. I started crying and freaking out a bit. Not wanting it to be a false positive, I took the second test and that one was positive. We were both in disbelief considering we thought we got our ovulation dates wrong. We were both like, how? We sat around the rest of the day not sure what to do with ourselves. We were super excited, happy, scared – every emotion you can think of.

Crystalin Marie pregnancy test

Our Thoughts on Having Kids

Mike and I grew up never really thinking about kids. When we got into a relationship, neither of us we’re dying to start a family. We were never those people. We both come from families of divorce, so I think without knowing it at the same, we were hesitant. As our relationship progressed and we were both at a good place in our lives, as individuals and as a couple, we definitely started talking about family and what that meant to us. I would see Mike with other kids and babies and could see him being the best father (he’s legitimately, the best with kids and they all love him). This sounds so cheesy, but the more we fell in love and the stronger our relationship got, the more I was ready to start a family with him.

We also always said, we would only start a family if we could both raise our kids at home. Both of us grew up having parents that worked outside of the house and we know the impact that had on us. As adults, we saw my aunt and uncle create a situation in Oregon where both parents stayed home and raised their kids (my uncle had a successful online business where he worked from home). We always said we wanted to do the same. I know it may sound bogus to have both parents home, but if you’ve never seen it done, you don’t know it can exist. We also know that it’s not for everyone and that it’s not the only way. This was just something that was really important to us. Thankfully, I had created a foundation for this when I started blogging in 2009. After years of hard work and putting a million hours into the blog, I was able to take it on as my full time job. In 2016, Mike and I took a leap of faith and sacrificed moving away from our friends and family to begin the process of starting a family in Oregon. Raising a family in the Bay Area was never an option for us because we both would have to work outside of the home. Oregon allows us the flexibility and the slower paced lifestyle to raise a family the way we’ve always dreamed about. Mike and I have been running Crystalin Marie full time for the last year and half and while there’s ups and downs, it’s been an absolute blessing.

While both Mike and I started off not knowing if kids were in our future, we’re thankful for growth, the life journey, and where we are today. We’re absolutely thrilled to start a family and we’re super grateful for this little miracle.

Janessa Leone white hat
Madewell Tank dress

Madewell dress (s), J.Crew denim jacket (xs), Janessa Leone Ainsley hat, Clare Vivier Alice tote, K. Jacques sandals (also love these)

The First Trimester

After maybe the first week of finding out we were pregnant, morning sickness or should I call it all day sickness started. I would never wish the way I felt on anyone. Being nauseous all day is the absolute worst feeling ever (because it never ends). I didn’t have an appetite for anything and I was completely miserable. I tried all the remedies – crackers, ginger, lemons, protein – nothing worked. I did force myself to eat every meal and noticed it made me feel better every time. Basically, any time I wasn’t eating, I was sick. Staying busy also helped, which was super weird. If went to the mall, I was okay. I even forced myself to workout and go for runs. All natural gum helped on the days I really needed to get to work done on the computer. So yeah, the first trimester was pretty awful. I’m reading Alicia Silverstone’s book, The Kind Mama, and she mentioned some pretty powerful sentiments about morning sickness. They went something like, the stronger the nausea, the stronger the pregnancy or it’s like your body is telling you that everything is working exactly as it should. While these sentiments were refreshing to hear, having to deal with nausea 24 hours a day for 3 months was awful.

Thankfully, once I passed week 12 things started to get better. Right now I feel fine during the day, get tired in the afternoon, and get a little sick at night. Naps have never felt so good, although it really doesn’t help productivity. I’m giving myself grace through it all, but as I’ve mentioned before, I’m a workaholic. We’ve also restructured my schedule to really get the majority of work done in the mornings. I wake up with the biggest appetite. I have to eat 2-3 times before lunch or it feels like my stomach is eating itself, haha. Another TMI moment, my boobs are ginormous. In my first trimester, it really felt like I was only gaining weight in my booobs. I can’t even imagine them getting larger (which I’m assuming they will). Can a 5ft petite girl have boobs bigger than double D’s?

I only recently got a bit of a tummy. Considering I wear loose fitting clothes, I’ve been able to hide any signs of pregnancy, which has been super convenient. Most of all my clothes still fit, although skinny jeans have definitely been put away for now. I bought this tank dress from Madewell (wearing a size small), which accentuates the belly, and makes Mike super happy. I figured it would be nice to show a little something something on the day we share our news. I will share more on my pregnancy style in another post, so stay tuned.

Janessa Leone Ainsley hat
Clare Vivier Alice tote

How Pregnancy and Becoming a Mom Will Impact The Blog

Becoming a mom will without a doubt change my life completely. With that being said, the essence of this blog will remain the same. You’ll still see all the fashion, shopping, sales, and outfit posts. I’ve always tried to make this space about fashion and my life, whether that’s through more personal posts, my weekend recaps, or my dogs all over my Instagram Stories. Now, there will just be some baby/kid/motherhood posts sprinkled in. I’ll have a tab dedicated to motherhood and baby and on the days I post those, you can either read along or skip to the next post. Honestly, I think sharing my motherhood journey will only help you get to know me better. Motherhood puts things into perspective and keeps you honest. You’ll see how I handle the ups and downs and more than likely there will always be some sort of life lesson through it all. It definitely won’t become a “Mommy Blog”, but I hope sharing my journey will be a source of inspiration for moms and non-moms alike.

Maternity dresses
Maternity tank dress

Let’s Wrap This Up

Phew, that was long! If you’ve made it to the end of this post, thank you! And Thank you for your love and support through the years. We can’t wait to share this new and crazy journey with you. If you have any mama advice or recommendations, I’d love to hear from you. Or if you know of any other mamas who would enjoy this blog or are looking to connect with other moms, send them my way. This is all very new us, so we’re all ears. We can’t wait to meet baby D!

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  • Congratulations! This was an exciting post. Can’t wait to hear more about your pregnancy along the way. And excited about posts after the birth. I am a mom of two and have been reading this blog forever. It is amazing to see how the blog has evolved. My sister-in-law is due in December too. Congratulations again and good luck with everything.

    • Thanks so much, Karrie! And thanks for following along and supporting us. It means so much! Good to know you’re looking forward to more motherhood related posts. Really helps with the blog transition :)

  • Congratulations and perfect timing! I’m due in December too and have been trying to find style inspiration that doesn’t revolve around buying an entirely new wardrobe of maternity clothes. Hope everything goes smoothly and the evening sickness disappears soon!

  • Congrats! So exciting! Finding out need like this is life changing and a huge blessing. Take it all in and enjoy every moment of your pregnancy. You will have a love for this little blessing more than you can ever imagine. Enjoy the ups and the downs. You’ll look back and be able to appreciate the journey. Oh and if it makes you feel better, December babies are the sweetest. I have one and he is the sweetest child. Now you just have more fun reasons to celebrate during the holidays. So don’t ever feel like it’s the worse time to have a baby. Anyway enjoy that sweet bum as your body changes and those huge boobs. Embrace it all. -Blessings from Norcal

    • Thank you!!!! Good to know December babies are sweet, lol. Yes, I’m really trying to take it all in and take these day by day. It’s so hard, when you just want baby girl to be here, already.

  • So much love to you and Mike and baby girl D!!!! Such wonderful news and can’t wait to travel through this journey with you from afar! :)

  • Congratulations!!! I have loved following along and watching you grow with your blog and in life and this will be the most exciting chapter yet!! Wishing you an easy and uneventful pregnancy!

  • I had an feeling, so excited for you guys! If you ever have any questions, I’m happy to help where I can. :) And as far as the boobs, as a fellow 5 footer, yes they can (and probably will) get bigger, just wait for that milk to come in! ;)

  • I’m due in mid-January with my first, so I’ll be excited to follow along with your pregnancy and hear about your choices on maternity / breastfeeding fashion, nursery items, baby essentials etc. Congratulations!

    • Congrats! I’m having a tough time getting dressed and shopping already… hopefully, I can figure this whole thing out.

  • Congratulations! I’m pregnant with my 4th and with each pregnancy, I had hyperemesis that went beyond the first trimester. I can’t wait to read about your journey with your pregnancy and being a first time mom.

    • Wow, that’s intense. Thankfully, things have gotten better for me. It’s so nice to hear from moms and other moms-to-be . I’m excited to share this next part of our lives with everyone :)

  • Congratulations! So excited for you and your boo. I’m actually pregnant with my first child too and we’re due in January so I’m only one month behind and I can’t wait to see all your maternity and baby posts! I’m starting to get a bump now and it’s a struggle I’ll be honest. Also… yessss morning/all day sickness is THE WORST. I also recently have recovered from weeks of nausea and it is no. Fun. At. All. Glad you’re feeling better and I’m with you on the morning energy and afternoon naps. Hahaha so similar!

    • Yesss, so very similar. Congratulations!!! We can definitely help each other out through this process :)

  • Congratulations and thank you for sharing your personal story! You make a stunning mama to be!

    I’m in the same boat as you were, never heavily considered having kids with divorced/absentee parents and it changed once I found myself in a relationship with my now husband. Still a good amount of time away for us both, but definitely on both our radar. I’m super excited to keep following your journey!

    • So glad this was relatable for you. Growth and experience are everything, game changers. We are so excited and can’t wait to share our journey with everyone!

  • Yay! Congrats!! Me too and we’re psyched. Due in November. I’m especially psyched because I’ve been looking for petite and pregnant fashion inspiration. Excited to share the journey.

    • Aww, congrats to you! Happy to be a source of inspiration for you. Although, I’m already struggling, lol.

  • Congratulations ! You will love being a mom. I wish you a smooth pregnancy. I’ve always loved your blog, so I can’t wait to hear more fashion tips from a “petite mom”.

  • Congratulations! I think it’s awesome that you are prioritizing having both parents at home and have worked to make that happen.

  • ahhh! congrats, Crystalin! I’m so happy for you and Mike! How are your fur babes taking the news? It’s always so fun to see how they react to a pregnancy. Are they sniffing mommy’s belly? LOL.
    You look gorgeous as always, and I’m loving your little dress in these shots. I can’t wait to see more of your maternity style and pregnancy journey. XO!

    • Aww, thanks Gina! Riley has no clue, but it seems like Lola knows something is up. She waits for me in every room, it’s adorable. I can’t wait to see her has a big sister.